Wk12: Love and Attraction Flashcards
Assume heterosexual unless otherwise stated (37 cards)
1
Q
Sternberg’s Triangular Model
A
- Intimacy: closeness/ bond/ presence
- Passion: physical attraction/ intercourse
- Commitment: devotion/ “i choose you”
- All three = consummate love
2
Q
Romantic love
Sternberg’s Triangular Model
A
Passion and intimacy
No commitment
3
Q
Compassionate love
Sternberg’s Triangular Model
A
Commitment and intimacy
No passion
4
Q
Fatuous love
Sternberg’s Triangular Model
A
Passion and commitment
No intimacy
5
Q
Intimacy alone constitutes
Sternberg’s Triangular Model
A
Liking
6
Q
Passion alone constitutes
Sternberg’s Triangular Model
A
Infatuation
7
Q
Commitment alone constitutes
Sternberg’s Triangular Model
A
Empty love
8
Q
Self-expansion theory
A
- Human desire to expand and grow as individuals
- Love facilitates this
- Psychological, social, material, experiential growth/ expansion
9
Q
Attraction
A
- Propinquity
- Similarity
- Reciprocity
- Physical attractiveness
10
Q
Propinquity
Attraction
A
- Tendency to be attracted to those in proximity to us
- Greater familiarity and exposure
- Numbers game; increased liklihood of meeting
- Propinquity ~~ proximity
11
Q
Similarity
Attraction
A
- Tendency to be attracted to those similar to us
- Generally more similarities than differences between partners
- Any differences usually complimentary
12
Q
Reciprocity
Attraction
A
- Tendency to be attracted to people who are attracted to us
- It’s nice to be liked; associated with positive feelings
13
Q
Generalised attraction
Reciprocity factor
A
- Tendency to be attracted to more people
- Attraction via reciprocity applies less
14
Q
Dyadic attraction
Reciprocity factor
A
- Tendency to be selective about who they are attracted to
- Attraction via reciprocity applies more
15
Q
Physical attractiveness
Attraction
A
- Symmetry
- V shape for men
- Hourglass shape for women
16
Q
Halo effect
Physical attraction
A
- Tendency to see those who are more attractive as having more positive personality traits
- Their appearance is a halo distracting from their negative traits
17
Q
Matching hypothesis
Physical attraction
A
- Tendency for people to partner with those who are equally attractive
18
Q
Reciprocity interaction with physical attractiveness
A
- Greater physical attraction, greater reciprocated romantic desire
- Inverse also true
19
Q
“Love at first sight”
Physical attraction
A
- They’re just horny
- Physical attractiveness only relevant factor
20
Q
Evolutionary perspective for women
Theories of love
A
- Reproducing is costly and limited
- Must be selective
- Maternal certainty
- Prefer those who appear good with kids
21
Q
Evolutionary perspective for men
Theories of love
A
- Reproducing is easy and unlimited
- Desire many partners
- Paternal uncertainty
- More likely to agree to intercourse with a stranger
22
Q
Sexual double standard
A
- Women who fuck = whores
- Men who fuck = studs
23
Q
Emotional infidelity
A
- Formed deep emotional connection outside relationship
- Women experience greater jealousy over emotional infidelity
- Men less likely to remain commited
24
Q
Sexual infidelity
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- Cheating via sex
- Men experience greater jealousy over sexual infidelity
- Women increase rate of paternal uncertainty
25
Ideal partner dimensions
## Footnote
Theories of love
* Warmth-trustworthiness
* Vitality-attractiveness
* Status-resources
Valued differently for individuals, but all important for ideal partners
26
Social exchange theory
## Footnote
Theories of love
* Relationships have benefits and costs
* They are evaluated when leaving, starting, or maintaining relationships
* Benefits > costs = greater relationship satisfaction
27
Minimax strategy
## Footnote
Social exchange theory
* Motivated to maximise benefits and minimise costs
* In relationships
28
Comparison level
## Footnote
Social exchange theory
* Comparing new relationship profits to past relationships
* Profit < CL = relationship dissatisfaction
* Profit > CL = relationship satisfaction
29
Equity theory
## Footnote
Theories of love
* Relationship fairness determines by what we and partner put in and get out of relationship
* Equitable relationships = relationship satisfaction
* Inequitable relationships = relationship dissatisfaction
* Under-benefitting from inequity = anger, resentment
* Over-benefitting from inequity = guilt, shame
30
Commitment factors
## Footnote
Theories of love
* Personal dedication
* Moral commitment
* Constraint commitment
Are reasons we stay in relationships
31
Personal dedication
## Footnote
Commitment factor of love
Attraction or attachment to partner
32
Moral commitment
## Footnote
Commitment factor of love
Sense of social responsibility, religious duty or moral obligation; controlled by values, principles
33
Constraint commitment
## Footnote
Commitment factor of love
High cost of living, tangible investments (children, social, financial, occupational)
34
Self-expansion theory
## Footnote
Theories of love
* Relationship dissolution in response to relationship stifling individual growth
* Participating in self-expanding activities together increased relationship satisfaction and quality
35
Relationship success factors
* Equitable division of labour; domestic partners
* Close friends; intimate self-disclosure
* Social support network
* Sexual satisfaction
* Non-sexual affection
36
Perceived relationship dissolution responses
* Constructive or destructive
* Passive or active
* [CP] Loyalty, [DP] Neglect
* [CA] Voice behaviour, [DA] Exit behaviour
37
Relationship dissolution stages
1. Intrapsychic: internal dissatisfaction
2. Dyadic: Negotiation/ Assessment of relationship
3. Social: Plan dissolution, enlist social support
4. Grave-dressing: psychologically move on
