Chapter 11 (BAL)

Question 1

To connect with others in enduring, close relationships

Answer 1

Need to belong

Question 2

Acts of excluding or ignoring

Answer 2

Ostracism

Question 3

Deficits in brain mechanisms that inhibit unwanted behavior

Answer 3

Self-control breakdown

Question 4

Opposite of ostracism that activates brain reward system

Answer 4

Feeling love

Question 5

How often people’s path cross

Answer 5

Interaction

Question 6

Expecting that someone will be pleasant and compatible

Answer 6

Anticipatory liking

Question 7

Familiarity does not breed contempt; rather, it fosters fondness

Answer 7

Mere exposure

Question 8

Tendency for novel stimuli to be liked more or rated more positively after the rater has been
repeatedly exposed to them

Answer 8

Mere-exposure effect

Question 9

Common prediction of boredom

Answer 9

Decreased interest

Question 10

Hardwired phenomenon that predisposes
our attractions and attachments

Answer 10

Enormous adaptive significance

Question 11

Automatic, unconscious prejudice people often feel when confronting those who are different

Answer 11

Wariness of the unfamiliar

Question 12

State of being almost the same, or which something or someone is almost alike.

Answer 12

SIMILARITY

Question 13

Supposed tendency, between people in a relationship, to complete what is missing in each other.

Answer 13

COMPLEMENTARITY

Question 14

Seeing only the good points of the person and
therefore our view of them is unrealistic.

Answer 14

Rose-colored glasses

Question 15

We like those who reward us and those we associate with rewards

Answer 15

Reward Theory of Attraction

Question 16

State of intense longing for union with another

Answer 16

Passionate love

Question 17

Argue that when the revved-up men responded to a woman, they easily misattributed some of their own arousal to her.

Answer 17

Two-factor theory of emotion

Question 18

If a close relationship is to endure, it will
settle to a steadier but still warm afterglow

Answer 18

Companionate love

Question 19

3 attachment styles

Answer 19

Secure attachment
Avoidant attachment
Anxious attachment

Question 20

Attachments rooted in trust and marked
by intimacy

Answer 20

Secure attachment

Question 21

Attachments marked by discomfort over or resistance to being close to others.

Answer 21

Avoidant attachment

Question 22

Attachments marked by anxiety or ambivalence.

Answer 22

Anxious attachment

Question 23

A condition in which the outcomes people
perceive from a relationship are proportional to what they contribute to it.

Answer 23

EQUITY

Question 24

We respond to someone’s need without
expecting anything in return

Answer 24

LONG TERM EQUITY

Question 25

Revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others.

Answer 25

SELF DISCLOSURE

Question 26

The tendency for one person’s intimacy of self-disclosure to match that of a conversational partner.

Answer 26

DISCLOSURE RECIPROCITY

Question 27

People who are genuine in revealing their own feelings, who are accepting of others’ feelings, and who are empathic, sensitive, reflective listeners.

Answer 27

“ growth promoting “ listeners

Question 28

Love is a feeling; often ask “What does my heart say?”; have more divorce; marry “for as long as we both shall love”; expects more passion and personal fulfillment in marriage

Answer 28

INDIVIDUALISTIC CULTURE

Question 29

Love entails obligation; often ask “What will other people say?”; marry more often for life

Answer 29

COLLECTIVIST CULTURE

Question 30

3 WAYS IN COPING WITH A FAILING RELATIONSHIP

Answer 30

Exhibit loyalty Exhibit neglect Voice their concerns

Question 31

By waiting for conditions to improve

Answer 31

Exhibit loyalty

Question 32

Usually men; ignore their partner and allow the relationship to deteriorate

Answer 32

Exhibit neglect

Question 33

Take active steps to improve the relationship by discussing problems, seeking advice, and attempting to change.

Answer 33

Voice their concerns