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a reminder of the microscopic line between being six and having borderline personality disorder.

I'm Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagán

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Only the dark half-moons beneath his eyes hinted at a string of midlife disappointments.

I'm Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagán

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I sometimes felt my husband was, in fact, my third and arguably least affectionate child.

I'm Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagán

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It gave you a bird’s-eye view of another person’s life. Which in turn reminded you that the bad you had was your choice, and better than the alternative.

I'm Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagán

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I was well aware that the semicharmed life I led was one part luck to three parts effort.

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I loved my husband. I loved my kids. I mostly liked my life. But I was so damn tired.

I'm Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagán

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Always eager to demonstrate my black belt in passive aggression, I gave him my best pageant wave and zipped past him.

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her best ideas were the result of, as she had written, “the mental space that comes from being by yourself for stretches of time.”

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it was rumored that soon we would all be working side by side at long tables so we could collaborate—or however the university would fictionalize the latest cost-reduction initiative.

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I would never understand how a man who spent hours on his pecs each week could so blatantly fail to address his nose hair situation.

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Now that sounded more like Jenny, who spouted inspirational quotes the way some people recited Bible verses.

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12

How was it that everyone else managed to find free time?

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13

I had to stop because I was about to blurt out all sorts of vulnerable things to a man who probably ate baby bunnies for breakfast.

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14

I did not just want compliance; I also wanted a hint of enthusiasm.

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Stop there, I thought. Don’t let your beautiful mouth utter another word. Let’s have one more minute where life is what I believe it to be and everything is fine.

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but like so many other things stored in my mind, motherhood had overwritten that file.

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I would quickly come to realize, having a child—and then another—was a professional liability for a person like me, which is to say a woman.

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18

There is something about seeing someone like you thrive that helps you to do the same.

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What I did not say to him was that it was not so much infatuation as deep relief at having a friend in the thick of it with me—and who seemed to hold the answer to my heart’s hidden question: how to be a good mother.

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“Penny,” said Sanjay, staring at me. I stared back, imagining throwing a carton of fries at him, because what he was asking was for me to parent them. Of all the days—of all the times—could he not step up?

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But something between us had shifted over the course of our marriage, particularly the last two to three years. We had gone from being lovers to best friends to . . . roommates who routinely irritated each other. If I was honest with myself, that was what it felt like most of the time.

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There was a bigger issue, though: most days I had the sense that, while I was frantically dog-paddling to keep our family afloat, Sanjay was sailing by. Our short-term agreement had morphed into an indefinite arrangement:

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it was a crying shame it had taken something so terrible for us to enjoy one lousy connection.

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Lunches to make and deliver. Toilet paper to buy. A car that needed to be retrieved from whatever far-flung lot it had been towed to. It didn’t matter if none of it mattered. It had to be dealt with all the same.

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tragedy had a way of bringing out people’s better angels, and

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Upset was realizing your best black dress was now several shades of maroon because you had entrusted the laundry to your husband, who had confirmed your long-standing suspicion that high standardized test scores had an inverse relationship to practical intelligence.

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We had once been wildly in love; we had once been partners in this life. I couldn’t pinpoint the exact moment that had stopped being true, but pretending I was fine and our marriage would fix itself wouldn’t get us back to that place.

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The ice cream he had dripped on his T-shirt before bed was now a Rorschach stain. To me, it resembled a middle-aged man succumbing to his inner slob.

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had this been lurking in my subconscious, just waiting for the right time to wallop me?

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And sometimes when I saw him bent over his computer, it seemed to me that so many hours with so little to show for it had frayed the best parts of the man I had married.

I'm Fine and Neither Are You by Camille Pagán

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