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Poetry, philosophy, and physics all teach us that we don’t experience time in equal increments.

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2

Grief is a demanding companion.

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3

Ordinary events became land mines.

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4

Let the story reveal itself. He doesn’t start each project knowing where the tale will end because it has to unfold in its own way and in its own time.

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5

Worried that I would try to control my grief, he encouraged me to listen to it, keep it close, and let it run its course.

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6

“No one ever told me,” C. S. Lewis wrote, “that grief felt so like fear. ” The fear was constant and it felt like the grief would never subside. The waves would continue to crash over me until I was no longer standing, no longer myself.

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7

After losing a parent, many children are surprisingly resilient. They go on to have happy childhoods and become well-adjusted adults.

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8

By six months, more than half of people who lose a spouse are past what psychologists classify as “acute grief. ”.

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9

We don’t pretend that hope will win out over pain every day. It won’t.

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10

“Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B. ”.

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11

Psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P’s can stunt recovery: (1) personalization—the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence—the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever.

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12

Not everything that happens to us happens because of us.

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13

Over the next few months, the thing I found myself saying most often was, “I’m sorry. ”.

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14

Banish the word “sorry. ” He also vetoed “I apologize,” “I regret that,”.

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15

By blaming myself I was delaying my recovery,.

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16

In the Jewish tradition, there is a seven-day intense mourning period known as shiva,.

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17

People need to feel supported and understood at work. I now know that this is even more important after tragedy.

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18

After the death of a loved one, only 60 percent of private sector workers get paid time off—and usually just a few days.

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19

When we’re suffering, we tend to project it out indefinitely.

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20

We tend to overestimate how long negative events will affect us.

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21

Just as the body has a physiological immune system, the brain has a psychological immune system. When something goes wrong, we instinctively marshal defense mechanisms. We see silver linings in clouds. We add sugar and water to lemons. We start clinging to clichés.

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22

Seligman found that words like “never” and “always” are signs of permanence. Just as I had to banish “sorry” from my vocabulary, I tried to eliminate “never” and “always” and replace them with “sometimes” and “lately. ”.

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23

Cognitive behavioral therapy technique where you write down a belief that’s causing you anguish and then follow it with proof that the belief is false.

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24

Humans are evolutionarily wired for both connection and grief: we naturally have the tools to recover from loss and trauma.

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25

Old Jewish tradition, like rejecting the first table offered in a restaurant.

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26

Psychologists asked a group of people to make a weekly list of five things for which they were grateful. Another group wrote about hassles and a third listed ordinary events. Nine weeks later, the gratitude group felt significantly happier and reported fewer health problems.

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Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. It comes from gratitude for what’s good in our lives and from leaning in to the suck.

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28

I learned that when life pulls you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. 2.

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29

Even people who have endured the worst suffering often want to talk about it.

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30

Survivors want the opportunity to teach and not be shunned because they went through something unknowable,”.

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