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He never gave up. He never stopped trying. He always believed in himself. He persisted against all the odds and made something of himself!” It is then strange that on Bukowski’s tombstone, the epitaph reads: “Don’t try.”

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Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the same thing.

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Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations: Be happier. Be healthier. Be the best, better than the rest.

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this fixation on the positive—on what’s better, what’s superior—only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be.

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if you’re dreaming of something all the time, then you’re reinforcing the same unconscious reality over and over: that you are not that.

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giving a fuck about more stuff is good for business.

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the problem is that giving too many fucks is bad for your mental health.

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The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.

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Very few animals on earth have the ability to think cogent thoughts to begin with, but we humans have the luxury of being able to have thoughts about our thoughts.

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Now if you feel like shit for even five minutes, you’re bombarded with 350 images of people totally happy and having amazing fucking lives, and it’s impossible to not feel like there’s something wrong with you.

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It’s this last part that gets us into trouble. We feel bad about feeling bad. We feel guilty for feeling guilty. We get angry about getting angry. We get anxious about feeling anxious. What is wrong with me?

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Our crisis is no longer material; it’s existential, it’s spiritual.

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there’s an infinite amount of things we can now see or know, there are also an infinite number of ways we can discover that we don’t measure up, that we’re not good enough, that things aren’t as great as they could be.

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The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.

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Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience.

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the philosopher Alan Watts used to refer to as “the backwards law”—the idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become, as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place.

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“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”

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Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others.

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Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.

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Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.

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Most of us struggle throughout our lives by giving too many fucks in situations where fucks do not deserve to be given.

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learning how to focus and prioritize your thoughts effectively—how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values.

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Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

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There’s absolutely nothing admirable or confident about indifference. People who are indifferent are lame and scared.

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people often attempt to be indifferent because in reality they give way too many fucks.

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the willingness to be different, an outcast, a pariah, all for the sake of one’s own values.

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They say, “Fuck it,” not to everything in life, but rather to everything unimportant in life.

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You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and an embarrassment to others.

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Subtlety #2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.

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The problem with people who hand out fucks like ice cream at a goddamn summer camp is that they don’t have anything more fuck-worthy to dedicate their fucks to.

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