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1
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What is the most important question for the study of intimate relationships?

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Why do relationships sometimes thrive and sometimes falter?

2
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What are the two dominant ideas that have provided guidance to understanding how satisfaction/happiness in a relationship changes?

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Emergent Distress Model and Enduring Dynamics Model.

3
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The emergent distress model includes which two theories?

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Social exchange theory and social ecological models.

4
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Enduring Dynamics Model

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Patterns of interaction are set in early stages of an intimate relationship. Stability once the pattern of interaction is established. Ultimate fate of a relationship is determined during courtship.

5
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What does cross-sectional studies say about marriage quality?

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It approximates a U-shaped curve.

6
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What is the problem with cross-sectional studies?

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Does not look at how individual relationships change over time.

7
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Cross-Sectional Studies

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Capture data at one time point.

8
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What types of study looks at relationships over time?

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Longitudinal.

9
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What do longitudinal studies consistently find about happiness in relationships?

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Marital quality tends to decline over the course of marriage, with no support for an upturn in marital quality in the later years.

10
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What is the problem with longitudinal studies?

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Takes averages, does not capture the whole picture. Average is influenced by extremes.

11
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Newest studies conclude that 2/3 of intimate relationships are ___ and ___ throughout their entire duration.

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Happy, stable.

12
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Ups and downs, U-shaped curves, and continuous declines are relatively ___ in relationships according to the newest studies.

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Rare.

13
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What types of people are more likely to sustain high-quality marriages?

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  • Less tendency to become angry.
  • Higher self-esteem.
  • Low levels of stress.
  • Less aggressive.
  • High positive affect and low negative affect.
  • Have fewer major marital problems, spend more time together, have money.
14
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Emergent distress (pattern of variables over time) or enduring dynamics (variables at the entrance of marriage)?

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Enduring dynamics.

15
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The focus for intimate relationship scholars are now shifting to the…

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Early, formative years of relationships.

16
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The best way to find lasting intimate relationship bliss…

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Is to be very intentional about the early stages of intimate relationships.

17
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Relationships can change, but they tend…

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To be stable.

18
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Change in relationships require…

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Intentional effort.

19
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What are the 3 key things to do in relationships?

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  1. Be reflective (awareness is powerful.
  2. Be intentional (actively build a relationship and life you want).
  3. Be accepting of yourself and your partner as distinct people.
20
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How do we be reflective in relationships?

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  • Be aware of yourself.
  • Be aware of your expectations.
  • Be aware of your context.
  • Be aware that your reality is not reality.
21
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How do we be intentional in relationships?

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  • Limit stress.
  • Build intimacy through daily exchanges.
  • Do something new.
  • Capitalize.
  • Avoid sliding.
22
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How do we be accepting of self and partner as distinct people in relationships?

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Respect yourself not to tolerate some things, but work toward giving the benefit of the doubt and finding happiness even when our partners are less than perfect.