Elements of the context get more ___ as they affect the couple more directly.
Elements of the context get more ___ as they affect the couple less directly.
Distal (further away).
The context in which you live contains both ___ and ___.
Stressors and resources.
Stressors are always static. True or false?
They may come and go. Car breaking down, having final exams, being sick.
Stressors that come and go are known as ___.
___ stressors tend to have a more dramatic and sudden impact.
Can stressors persist over time?
Give an example of chronic stressors?
Living in a neighbourhood with a high crime rate.
Stressors that persist over time are known as ___ stressors.
___ stressors have a constant and subtle impact.
Acute and chronic stressors are on a ___, and is not black and white.
How controllable vs. uncontrollable a stressor is can also be considered as how ___ a stressor is.
What types of stressors tend to have a more dramatic and detrimental impact on relationships?
Uncontrollable and unpredictable.
Give an example of a controllable stressor?
Graduating from university.
Give an example of an uncontrollable stressor?
Suddenly being laid off from a job.
When we are ___, we do not function at our best.
Powerless. Having an internal locus of control is important.
In an interdependent relationship, stress for one person will…
Inevitably affect the other partner. We do not know how much.
Concrete effects of stress:
- Takes our time.
- Takes our money.
- Preoccupies our thoughts.
How does stress take our time?
Time spent dealing with stress.
How does stress take our money?
Car breaks down, lose a job, moving, illness.
How does stress preoccupy our thoughts?
When you are really stressed and worried about somethings it can be difficult to think of anything else.
What is the physiological impact of stress?
Body begins the fight or flight response.
The fight or flight response is ___.
While the fight or flight response is ___ for some stressors, but can be damaging over time.
The fight or flight response increases physical performance, but…
Weakens immune system.
Stress tend to improve our ___, ___, and ___ in relation to the stressful situation and simple tasks.
Attention, memory, and performance.
Stress decreases performance on ___ and ___ tasks (such as communication and empathy).
Stress increases performance on simple tasks, but decreases performance on more complex things.
Stress increases reflexes and decreases your higher-order thinking skills. What can this lead to?
Blaming, losing temper, becoming physiologically aroused and not able to think logically.
Stress tends to ___ intimate relationships.
Stress lowers ___ and ___ satisfaction.
Stress leads to poorer ___ and ___ ___ skills.
Communication, problem solving.
Stress can lead to ___/___ in intimate relationships.
Stress spillover is an ___ process.
Stress from one area of someone;s life has an impact on other areas.
Give an example of stress spillover.
Stressed out from cramming for tests, perceive your relationship with your partner to be les happy.
Stress crossover is an ___ process.
Stress that one partner faces has an impact on the other partner.
Give an example of stress crossover.
Stressed out from cramming for tests, come home in a bad mood and get in a fight.
Stresses rarely come one at a time.
Give an example of a pileup.
Car accident results in injury, financial loss, disruption to family scheduling, inability to help out around the house, less hours worked, increased care-giving responsibilities, dealing with insurance and mechanics.
Pileup corresponds to the
___ ___ Model.
Simply being ___ of stress can avoid spillover.
Why does having more than 5 stressful events result in higher marital satisfaction?
Allows partners to take a step back and see that it’s not because of your partner, but because of stressors going on around them.
When we vent towards our partners because of stressful events, it is a form of…
Misattribution of arousal.
When men and women have stress at work…
Both experience worse outcomes at home.
Only ___ experienced more stress at work after problems at home.
Why do men have more stress at work after problems at home?
Women are more responsive. and men do not have to alter their behaviours. Men are more shielded from home stress, and thus are less able to cope with it the following day.
We tend to give support…
The way we want to receive it.
4 points of dealing with partners’ stresses.
- Everyone deals with stress differently.
- We tend to give support the way we want to receive it.
- Automatic advice giving is not helpful.
If couples have the resources to cope with the stressors they face, then the experience of having successfully coped with the stressors may be ___ for the relationship.
Communities impacted by natural disasters had a ___ in both marriages and divorces after the disaster that was not seen in the comparative communities.
What occurs in a crisis that causes more marriages and divorces?
Crisis offers a rare opportunity when we are shaken to our roots. It is during those times when we take a step back and evaluate our lives. It is at these times where we solidify/end commitments.