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1

Behavioural research assumes that behaviours have inherent ___.

Meanings.

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Behaviours always have inherent meanings. True or false?

False, some behaviours are ambiguous.

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Meaning comes partly from behaviour, and partly from...

How we interpret it.

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Belief

Idea of what relationships are like.

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Value

Idea about what relationships should be like.

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Couples who fight a lot have a lot of passion. Belief or value?

Belief.

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Couples should agree more often than they disagree. Belief or value?

Value.

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Lay Theories

People's ideas (their beliefs and values) about relationships.

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Does everyone have an idea of what a relationship is like?

Yes.

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Difference between lay theories and scholarly theories.

Lay theories are more vague, while scholarly theories are more precise in terms.

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General Lay Theories

People's ideas about relationships overall.

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Specific Lay Theories

People's ideas about a particular relationship.

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Beliefs helps us navigate our complex social world in 3 ways. What are they?

- Understand and explain the world around us.
- Anticipate and predict what will happen.
- Control and regulate our behaviour.

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What are the 2 more important ways that beliefs help us navigate the social world?

- Anticipate and predict what will happen.
- Control and regulate our behaviour.

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Expectations (class notes)

Beliefs about the way things will be or should be -- including behaviours, roles, beliefs, relationships, etc..

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Expectations (textbook)

Predictions about what is likely to happen in a particular relationship.

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True or false? Expectations are always influenced by general beliefs about relationships.

False, they can be, but are not always.

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In intimate relationships, an unmet expectations or different expectations often fuel ___.

Conflict.

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What is the biggest indicator that you have encountered an unmet expectation?

Disappointment.

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(Review Question) What is a key indicator of an interpretive filter?

Discussions of right and wrong.

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3 types of problematic expectations:

1. Unaware.
2. Unreasonable.
3. Unspoken.

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Unaware Expectations

Simply don't know of haven't thought through them.

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Unreasonable Expectations

Not grounded in reality.

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Unspoken Expectations

Not shared with your partner.

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What is the most common type of expectations?

Unspoken.

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Give examples of unrealistic expectations:

- Mindreading is expected.
- Disagreement is destructive.
- Sexual perfectionism.
- Partners/relationships cannot change.
- Sexes are different.

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2 conclusions about expectations.

1. Positive enough to keep you motivated.
2. Not so positive you constantly feel disappointed.

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People with what kind of expectations are most satisfied?

People with expectations that are positive, but not so positive that they can’t be met, tend to be most satisfied.

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What kinds of expectations are best kept lower?

Expectations with respect to factors that are out of one’s control (e.g., external stressors) or ability (e.g., mind-reading ability) are best kept lower.

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No matter how perfect your expectations may be, you must ___ them.

Communicate.

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Not communicating expectations set you up for...

Disappointment and frustration.

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Expectations can be too mundane. True or false?

False.

33

Expectations stay constant. True or false?

False.

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Ideal Standards Model

People evaluate their relationship against each of their beliefs and values.

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What is the ideal standards model based on?

Social exchange theory.

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If sex is important, sexual satisfaction correlates ___ with relationship satisfaction.

Strongly.

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If sex is not important, sexual satisfaction correlates ___ with relationship satisfaction.

Weakly.

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For those who felt strongly that success was out of their control (believed in destiny), when they were unhappy at the beginning...

They ditched.

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For those who did not believe in destiny, their initial satisfaction...

Had little effect.

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Perceptual Confirmation

When people’s partners behave in ambiguous ways, they use their specific relationship beliefs and values to interpret the behaviour.

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Perceptual confirmation says that we...

See what we want to see.

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People with higher rejection sensitivity (people don't like me, people don't want to spend time with me) were more likely to believe that the person who left the room left because...

Of them.

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Behavioural Confirmation

People’s behavior toward their partner matches their specific relationship beliefs and values.

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Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

We act in ways that prompt others to behave in accordance with our beliefs.

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What is this an example of? Someone is so scared that their partner is going to leave them that they constantly check up on their partner, insisting that they spend all their time together, and cannot tolerate any disagreement. The partner gets exhausted and dumps them.

Self-fulfilling prophecy.