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1
Q

What you want in a partner is a good indicator of what you get in a partner. True or false?

A

False.

2
Q

Why is it false that we would end up partnered with those that possess qualities we are attracted to?

A

Because attraction is intrapersonal, while mate selection is interpersonal. Dyadic interaction informs what we find attractive.

3
Q

Attraction is ___ while mate selection is ___.

A

Intrapersonal, interpersonal.

4
Q

Monozygotic twins have a ___ level of correlation between what they find attractive.

A

High.

5
Q

Does attraction lead to mate selection?

A

No, monozygotic twins end up with partners who are not similar at all, even though they find the same things attractive.

6
Q

The best predictor for who you will marry is ___.

A

Geography.

7
Q

Why is proximity such a strong factor for marriage?

A

WE have the most opportunity for interaction with those closest to us.

8
Q

Technology has made physical proximity ___ crucial.

A

Less.

9
Q

Face to face interaction is disposable in mate selection. True or false?

A

False.

10
Q

How do people signal their interest in another person?

A
  • Behaviours that indicate one’s presence.
  • Behaviours that indicate one’s gender.
  • Behaviours that express interest.
11
Q

There is a ___ level of concordance between animal behaviours and human behaviours when it comes to signalling interest.

A

High.

12
Q

___ are more likely to make the first move. However, ___ tend to have made subtle clues. What is this called?

A

Men, women. Proceptivity.

13
Q

Proceptivity

A

Things that women do that express interest.

14
Q

Give examples of behaviours that signal presence.

A
  • Saying hello.
  • Eye contact.
  • Talking loudly.
  • Drawing attention.
15
Q

Give examples of behaviours that indicate one’s gender.

A
  • Perfume.
  • Dress.
  • Makeup.
  • Things that indicate masculinity.
  • Flipping hair, swaying hips.
16
Q

Give examples of behaviours that express interest.

A
  • Laughing loudly at someone’s jokes.

- Physical touch.

17
Q

Those in interactions that are going well where partners are interested in further contact begin to exhibit ___ ___.

A

Behavioural synchrony. Opposite of this is behavioural asynchrony.

18
Q

Behavioural Synchrony

A

Mimic each other’s behaviour in subtle ways as a result of an interaction going well.

19
Q

Initial conversations between potential partners tend to be ___.

A

Shallow.

20
Q

Over time, ___ personal information is shared.

A

More.

21
Q

Disclosure Reciprocity

A

One person’s disclosure leads the other to disclose.

22
Q

Disclosure reciprocity ___ ___ as the relationship moves on.

A

Slows down.

23
Q

We tend to like people more after we disclose information to them, or when they disclose information to us?

A

Both.

24
Q

When is disclosure bad?

A

When you disclose too much too soon.

25
Q

___ and ___ is key to disclosure.

A

Timing, context.

26
Q

During the relationship formation process, certain topics are ___.

A

Avoided.

27
Q

Best time to disclose is after ___.

A

Stability.

28
Q

There is a meta-trend towards ___.

A

Ambiguity.

29
Q

What is the meta-trend towards ambiguity?

A

The order and items in pair-bonding is becoming more ambiguous and mixed up. Increased complexity.

30
Q

Ambiguity is most prominent among…

A

Young adults.

31
Q

What are some reasons for the rise in ambiguity?

A
  • Provides a sense of safety.
  • Allows us to avoid commitment.
  • Preserve the fantasized idealization of the relationship.
32
Q

How does ambiguity lead to a sense of safety?

A

Can help insulate from vulnerability and loss and rejection.

33
Q

Ambiguity allows us to avoid ___.

A

Commitment. Need to evaluate all options.

34
Q

Does ambiguity lead to less pain when breaking up?

A

Not necessarily. The mismatched relationship investment can make it more difficulty. Breakups can be more painful when its purpose is to avoid that pain.

35
Q

Relational Uncertainty

A

The degree of confidence individuals have in their perceptions of involvement within interpersonal relationships.

36
Q

What does relational uncertainty lead to?

A
  • Avoid direct communication about difficult issues.
  • Relational uncertainty diminishes the ability to draw accurate conclusions about partner’s messages.
  • Reduces confidence to communicate.
  • View partner and relationship more negatively.
37
Q

Ambiguity tends to impair ___ and relationship ___.

A

Communication, quality.

38
Q

Ambiguity appears to damage the long term viability and health of ___.

A

Relationships.

39
Q

How do you fix ambiguity?

A
  • Communicate directly and clearly beginning early on.
  • Slow down relational involvement – delay sex and cohabitation because they increase constraints without laying out clear direction for relationship.