Flashcards in Mate Selection Deck (39):
What you want in a partner is a good indicator of what you get in a partner. True or false?
Why is it false that we would end up partnered with those that possess qualities we are attracted to?
Because attraction is intrapersonal, while mate selection is interpersonal. Dyadic interaction informs what we find attractive.
Attraction is ___ while mate selection is ___.
Monozygotic twins have a ___ level of correlation between what they find attractive.
Does attraction lead to mate selection?
No, monozygotic twins end up with partners who are not similar at all, even though they find the same things attractive.
The best predictor for who you will marry is ___.
Why is proximity such a strong factor for marriage?
WE have the most opportunity for interaction with those closest to us.
Technology has made physical proximity ___ crucial.
Face to face interaction is disposable in mate selection. True or false?
How do people signal their interest in another person?
- Behaviours that indicate one's presence.
- Behaviours that indicate one's gender.
- Behaviours that express interest.
There is a ___ level of concordance between animal behaviours and human behaviours when it comes to signalling interest.
___ are more likely to make the first move. However, ___ tend to have made subtle clues. What is this called?
Men, women. Proceptivity.
Things that women do that express interest.
Give examples of behaviours that signal presence.
- Saying hello.
- Eye contact.
- Talking loudly.
- Drawing attention.
Give examples of behaviours that indicate one's gender.
- Things that indicate masculinity.
- Flipping hair, swaying hips.
Give examples of behaviours that express interest.
- Laughing loudly at someone’s jokes.
- Physical touch.
Those in interactions that are going well where partners are interested in further contact begin to exhibit ___ ___.
Behavioural synchrony. Opposite of this is behavioural asynchrony.
Mimic each other's behaviour in subtle ways as a result of an interaction going well.
Initial conversations between potential partners tend to be ___.
Over time, ___ personal information is shared.
One person's disclosure leads the other to disclose.
Disclosure reciprocity ___ ___ as the relationship moves on.
We tend to like people more after we disclose information to them, or when they disclose information to us?
When is disclosure bad?
When you disclose too much too soon.
___ and ___ is key to disclosure.
During the relationship formation process, certain topics are ___.
Best time to disclose is after ___.
There is a meta-trend towards ___.
What is the meta-trend towards ambiguity?
The order and items in pair-bonding is becoming more ambiguous and mixed up. Increased complexity.
Ambiguity is most prominent among...
What are some reasons for the rise in ambiguity?
- Provides a sense of safety.
- Allows us to avoid commitment.
- Preserve the fantasized idealization of the relationship.
How does ambiguity lead to a sense of safety?
Can help insulate from vulnerability and loss and rejection.
Ambiguity allows us to avoid ___.
Commitment. Need to evaluate all options.
Does ambiguity lead to less pain when breaking up?
Not necessarily. The mismatched relationship investment can make it more difficulty. Breakups can be more painful when its purpose is to avoid that pain.
The degree of confidence individuals have in their perceptions of involvement within interpersonal relationships.
What does relational uncertainty lead to?
- Avoid direct communication about difficult issues.
- Relational uncertainty diminishes the ability to draw accurate conclusions about partner's messages.
- Reduces confidence to communicate.
- View partner and relationship more negatively.
Ambiguity tends to impair ___ and relationship ___.
Ambiguity appears to damage the long term viability and health of ___.